Thursday, May 22, 2008

Finding Your Voice

When my 3rd daughter was around 1 year old she would chit-chat non-stop. The fact she knew no words meant nothing to her because she had a lot to say. I was jokingly complaining to my mother-in-law about the constant chatter when she said “She’s finding her voice”. I loved the way she said that! Finding your voice not only implies the sound your body can make but the capacity to let your thoughts and feelings be known, to express yourself fully.

Most adults reading this have found their physical voice. You can make noises verbalize thoughts but have you truly found your ‘voice’? In order to find your voice I think you first need to realize who you are and who you want to be. Let that marinate for a minute. If you are a Christian that also involves thinking of whom God created you to be.

Let me give you an example: one person may decide to attend every function they are invited to in order to show the person that invites them that they are valued. Another person may decide it is ok to say no to functions in order to have a balance of quiet nights also. Neither method is right or wrong, but the point here is the intentional thought process of making your decisions. Figuring out who you are involves looking at your priorities and making decisions accordingly rather than just making the decision that will make others around you happy or making decisions according to what is easiest at the moment.

Once you figure out your path ‘finding your voice’ begins to include vocalizing who you are. You will decide how you will treat others verbally, how you will communicate your decisions and how you will verbalize your thoughts.

Sure you might be talking today but have you found your voice? Are you speaking intentionally? Do you know why you make the decisions you do and do you have the courage to voice your true self?


ChrisW said...

Sorry y'all, but I am going to take a moment to gush about the author...(I may be slightly biased, but whatever, I am finding my voice and putting it out there ;).
Miss, I love how you are able to voice/verbalize your thoughts so clearly (something I often struggle with) and they resonate with me (as you know). I read them and I like to say, YES, that's what I'm talking about! and I love being on this journey of, I'll say it, attempted authenticity: intentionally asking who do I want to be and trying (i repeat trying)to live a life consistent with that (it's not always easy, but I believe it is a worthwhile endeavour) and it all starts with 'finding your voice'.

The Big DC said...

Sheesh you two - find a room! :)

Good post Missy!

Julie said...

So...was this after our big discussion? :)